Created to be Creative

I am an artist.  As an artist I show my work at various galleries on occasion and when I do I always encounter a person or two who approaches me in a sort of state of awe.  Not necessarily about my work, but about the work of having created something.  There is a group of people, perhaps even the majority, that think they are not creative.  I’ve also come to understand that this group of people thinks there are two groups of people:  creative and not creative.  I don’t believe that.  The simple truth is that we were created by the Master of Creativity and if we are made in His image, which we are, then we are not only all capable of creativity, but I would assert that we are all called to be creative.

I am not suggesting that everyone go out and buy a camera or pick up a paint brush.  I am suggesting, however, that each of us uses our innate creativity to bring beauty into our every day, ordinary lives.  Such ordinary circumstances like parenting, marriage, your home, your routine, work, dating, and eating are all areas that can, and should, be subjected to your art of creativity.

Creative Parenting

Parenting is often the root of a mommy and daddy’s existence for approximately 18 years.  I am not an ordinary parent, but I do parent two dogs and it is similar in a lot of ways.  I have found each dog to be so different in personality and demeanor, so much so that they require completely different methods of “parenting.”  I go into depth about the differences in discipline and love languages from dog to dog, or Haley to Sam, HERE.

In my case of parenting my dogs I have transformed a simple walk into a field trip to the park buried in the back of the neighborhood.  Here I can let them off the leash to romp about and play fetch.  I have also transformed the art of a “walk” itself on the occasion I strap on my roller blades and let the dogs pull me all around the neighborhood.

In the case of parenting children the same can be done.  It’s all  about transforming the daily, normal activities and making them not only more exciting and tailored to your children but perhaps even more exciting and tailored to you so you can better enjoy that time with them.  You could transform making meals into family collaboration.  In my experience kids love to be a part of the food making process.  Especially if it involves making something sweet 😉  Or maybe you could transform the bedtime routine into a game – make it a timed race, see who can pick out the craziest pajamas, cleanest teeth contest, etc.

Creating a Creative Marriage

I am married.  Josh and I have discovered that we do best when we customize the way we love to make our counterpart feel it to the full.  I’ve found that the days I’m feeling entitled to being loved a certain way by him are actually the days it is best to focus that attention outward and go out of my way to love on him.  A great way to get started in creatively and intentionally loving your spouse is by picking up Love Dare at your library or buy it (so you can mark it all up).  A less creative although very important way to create a creative marriage is by building each other up in some basic needs like prayer, going to church, dreaming together, budgeting together and MORE.  Once those basic needs are taken care of and you not only have your heart set in the right place but by going to God with your problems you will often find suddenly a creative solution is placed before you and by doing these simple things together you will find you are suddenly inspired to love more and to love better.

Creativity in your Home Space

A home is your habitat.  It is the place that is perhaps the only place you can call your own.

In nature I see so many intentional home builders.  Some male birds build nests to impress the lady they have their eye on, bees build a crazy awesome infrastructure of cubbies, beavers build dams with paramount precision, ants build ridiculously ornate infrastructures of pathways and niches, male clown fish have the job of picking out the prettiest available anemone for their mate and babies to live safely, and that’s just the cherry on the giant, seemingly infinite, sundae of creative home spaces within nature!

So, then, why is it that people often completely neglect the aesthetics of their home?  Now, wives, please to do not bring my article to you hubby and declare, “see, we do need that China hutch I’ve been eyeing!”  No, but I do advocate setting a budget to fix up the place and make any necessary purchases to bring your home to life.  And, more than that, I recommend getting creative with what you already have and see if you can’t repurpose or refurbish things you already own. I just recently finished my own Remaking Home project to infuse creativity within my home space so if you want some inspiration or motivation CLICK HERE to read more about that 🙂

Creativity in your Routine

I once read somewhere that to inspire creativity one of the best places to start is your daily routine.  I am a creature of habit in so many ways so I understand those of you who feel hesitant to give this a try.  However, I have found that with an appropriate ratio of structure and flux my needs to keep a sense of balance and inspire creativity are both met thoroughly.  For example, I set aside Mondays and Thursdays aside for a Sunshine Moment business matters and photo editing; on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Fridays I attend to business and blogging in the morning and then I devote the rest of my day to writing, homesteading, researching, or any number of other creative adventures I want to commit to (my areas of flux); Saturdays are reserved for booking shoots and more a Sunshine Moment; and Sundays I maintain as my Sabbath (another area of wonderful flux) and I never miss church unless I absolutely can’t help it.  So there, now you are all too well-informed about my daily work life 🙂

Creative Dating

Josh and I have found that our best memories are of times when we did something a little outside the box or used our money in a creative way.  Maybe there’s a free concert in the park, or maybe you want to go get ice cream, or maybe you can go on a picnic.  Get out and have some fun or stay in and invent a new activity.  The standard dinner and a movie date is particularly rockin’ when you don’t do it all the time 🙂

Creative Eating

This one is simple.  We eat every day.  Those of us that have a passion for food this is your area to get creative!  Spice up your salad, soup, sandwich, or otherwise sumptuous meal with a pop of color, a prop, placement, or presentation 🙂

These, of course, are just a few ways to spice up your life with a little creativity.  There are so many other areas of life that you can concentrate on and make them special.  I know you will find some amazing fruits out of the extra “labor” you put in!

Miss Independent is Back

I have seen Josh for about five whole days in the last month and a half or so.  For this Redeemed Tour Citizen Way started up in our neck of the woods then headed down south, all the way west, up to Washington and over to Montana and then, finally, one month later I picked him up at a McDonald’s off the freeway in MN.  He had gone a total of around 8094 miles and 128 hours of driving for 19 shows at 19 different venues in 12 different states in 31 days and only slept 2 – 5 hours per night.  Josh and Ben Blascoe split all those miles and all those hours in the driver’s seat of their 15 passenger van.

Screen shot 2013-03-14 at 9.48.10 AMThis map shows the first 31 days of the tour, February 1 – March 4.

Needless to say, after all those miles with high energy and sold out shows in so many cities and states Josh was in need of some serious sleep.  Instead, he meets me in Minnesota to sing for my Grandma’s memorial service.  For him this meant sacrificing his big need for rest and pouring any remaining energy into loving on me, working on memorial service details, and entertaining my extended family.  And he did it all with such grace and love.  He is incredible.

If you haven’t guessed, marriage for us is different.

Because of all our time apart and weeks spent fending for myself I have found that I have reconnected with the little Miss Independent from my teenage years.  While Josh is gone I adopt a different lifestyle; I work all morning, around 1 or 2 I take a break or a nap, I get back to work, and come evening I read a book until I’m sleepy.  I mix it up with the occasional hang with a friend, a walk with the dogs, a home project, or some knitting.  It’s seems to be a very healthy pattern.  Instead of powering through 8 – 10 hours of work every day I put in 4 or 5, take a break so I can power back up and get excited and inspired, then I work the remaining 4 to 5 hours.

I also have a whole manner of affairs to tend to on my own.  Because of these little items I have to work on I have been finding that at the end of every day I feel very accomplished.  By sweeping, doing the dishes, buying groceries, juicing, getting the oil changed, shoveling the driveway, clipping the dog’s nails, or paying bills I can feel like I’ve been productive even if I’ve only been working on editing the same wedding for three days straight.

Then Josh comes home and we try to squeeze in as much togetherness as my work load can afford.  It’s a confusing back and forth because on one had I’m left to fend for myself and on the other hand I suddenly have someone around 24/7.  Talk about some whiplash.  We’re still navigating how to go between these two extremes in the ways that are easiest and most beneficial for both of us.  For the rest of this Redeemed Tour the art of this back-and-forth will be put to the test.  According to the schedule Josh is gone 4 – 5 days at a time then he’s home for 2 – 3.  As for today and the rest of this week I am Miss Independent, then come Monday I am a Mrs again for a couple of days 😉

A Musician’s Wife’s Reality

Wednesday Words

My friend Becky posted this blog yesterday morning and inspired me to share my similar, yet different story.

A traditional marriage has a stay-at-home mom, kids, and a 9 – 5 working husband.  In this model the husband works all day to provide for the family while the wife stays at home caring for the kids and then they all get to spend the evening and weekends together.

A couple of years ago, within a month, Josh and I both transitioned into full-time self-employment.  A year later Citizen Way, Josh’s band, was signed and I had to wean off of most of my part-time/freelance gigs to put enough time into my business, a Sunshine Moment.

As a result, in my marriage, I am the bread-winner right now, which is a joke because I am an artist, and my husband sometimes spends weeks at a time away from the house.  This makes me responsible for taking care of our home, making the money, doing our budget, paying the bills, taking care of the dogs, and taking care of myself. I’ve become all too aware that this wouldn’t be nearly as difficult if I was single and only paying bills for one person while splitting the rent with a roommate or two.  Not to mention, I’d have people around.

So, as Josh is gone for days or weeks at a time I work overtime in my little corner to pay our bills.  I don’t complain anymore.  Yes, this means I used to.  I used to take it hard when Josh left for a few days at a time.  Now our normal is weeks at a time so I push any inconvenient feelings into a box in the back corner of my brain and lock them back there.

Most people think what we have is ideal.  I mean we’re doing what we love and getting paid for it right?  Yes we are doing what we love.  But, currently, Josh isn’t really getting paid for it and I’m barely getting paid for it.  It’s the fact of our life and a risk we have to take in hopes that money will come eventually.

So this is my norm.  And after this past week, I would take that every day if I didn’t have to live what I’m living right now…

On Thursday Josh left for 4+ weeks of nonstop touring.

On Friday my mom called to tell me my Grandma decided to stop dialysis (this means she has about 2 weeks to live).

On Sunday that knowledge, despite my best efforts of to contain it, traveled from my head to my heart and spilled over as buckets of messy, snotty tears.

Yesterday I was pushed further.  Sam first snatched a chocolate chip cookie right off the table while I was in the bathroom.  When I found him all that was left were crumbs and chocolate smears all over my couch.  A couple hours later I came home from running a vital errand for the band to find he’d managed to get into the bathroom and distribute the contents of the trash all over the house and snatch the box of donuts off of a different table and polish them off.

Something in me snapped.  After almost throwing Sam out of the house to be in time out I melted to a puddle of wailing in the middle of my kitchen floor.  I picked myself up only to crumple again onto the more favorable, carpeted floor of the living room.  When I finally reached a state of numbness, I let Sam in, and spent the next two hours completely still and silent on my couch.  I dozed in-between bouts of just staring at the wall.  I have never felt so alone and helpless.

The worst part is I told myself I would be strong because there’s nothing worse than having a needy wife at home making a mess of herself.  But it appears I can only manage for so long before succumbing to my black hole of remorse.

My grandma does not know Jesus.  So even though she is still alive my fear and grief for her soul is consuming my whole body.  I have prayed for her consistently for a year and a half and now and with only two weeks left to reach her I simply feel hopeless.

Perhaps this is me reaching out for help. But all I really want is for my grandma to find Jesus so I ask that you simply pray your hearts out for her because the prayers of one broken-hearted girl is not enough anymore.

100th Blog Post Giveaway (CLOSED)

This is my 100th blog post!  As such I did not want to just post any ‘ol blog entry.  First, thank you so much to those of you who read all the crazy things I have to say and a special thanks to my subscribers!

My gift to you:  a giveaway (more info below) and a few interesting blog statistics

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My first blog post:  Forgotten Rocks (May 16, 2011)

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  2. FACT: The Makings of a Musical Marriage (220 views)
  3. Wednesday Words: Walking through a Desert (211 views)
  4. 2012 ASM Wedding Favorites! (169 views)
  5. Musings of a Musician’s Wife: Remembering (169 views)

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I love everything about your blog. You are honest, intelligent, and you are a beautiful photographer.


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What needs improving on my blog? I want to be able to follow it! Tell me how!
Any thing else you want to say? I miss you.
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  • Melissa!  You are just the SWEETEST!  Thanks for your encouragement, it goes so far in my little heart 🙂  To follow the blog scroll down my sidebar until you see…

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Joel Osborn
I love the way you share your heart in a very real way.


What’s your favorite color? dark blue
What needs improving on my blog? I’ve not noticed anything that needs improvement.
Any thing else you want to say? nope
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  • Hey Joel!  Thanks so much for commenting! Thanks for affirming my risk in stepping out in honestly 🙂  Very encouraging!

Sam Gabhart
I like the various things that I’ve seen already…and since I’ve just started following, that isn’t much yet. I do have to say, I appreciate your honesty and how fun your photography is to see!


What’s your favorite color? Emerald Green. 😀
What needs improving on my blog? Not sure…honestly.
Any thing else you want to say? Keep it up! It is going to be so fun to follow you!
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  • Hi Sam!  Thanks so much for commenting! Your simple words of affirmation about my honesty and photography were so kind.  Looking forward to sharing more with you!

weltzinmedia
Well I (Brittany) prefer your homeopathic and pet posts! We do love your photography ideas as well too! We mostly do video but like to fill request for photography as well. That leads to us enjoying your pictures of a new studio! Basically It’s a great way to share your creativity that God has given you!


What’s your favorite color? Red
What needs improving on my blog? I think maybe more connections to the title of your blog would help tie into the stories. I haven’t read every post though so I don’t know!
Any thing else you want to say? Never stop writing your thoughts and ideas! God is using your voice to help others!
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  • Hey Brittany!  Thanks so much for your feedback and encouragement!  I also appreciate your tip and will see what I can do about drawing a better connection to the title of the blog.  I have a hunch on the blog posts you are referring to 😉

Jackie Burns
I like how honest you are Kaia. I’m sure it not only helps you, but so many other people that read what you have to write. Your honesty is what makes this blog a blessing to read.


What’s your favorite color? Pink
What needs improving on my blog? Currently I think things are really working nicely. Pictures of you and Josh are always wonderful 🙂
Any thing else you want to say? Even though I’ve never met you, Kaia, I am so glad I have gotten a chance to see a glimpse into who you are and the life you have with Josh. It’s such a blessing to see what a wonderful woman he married and to know that he’s so utterly blessed by you. I have appreciated growing up with Josh through SDB stuff, but I appreciate growing as adults now too in our respective marriages. Many blessings to you (and Josh)!
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  • Hey Jackie!  You words were so kind and encouraging!  Thanks for taking the time to write them to me.  Made me smile!  And I did say “hi” to Josh for you 😉

Elyse McIntire
I love your honesty! My favorite blogs have been the ones you write about marriage! Being in a long distance relationship, it gives me hope and insight knowing I’m not alone in facing difficulties with distance! Reading your blog has also given me insight as to who you are as a person, and how that has led to SO much more excitement that you’ll photograph Kev & I’s wedding!


What’s your favorite color? yellow
What needs improving on my blog? I dont know :/. I am not, by any means, a writer… So anyone who can write I am always very impressed and have very little to critique… Sorry!
Any thing else you want to say?
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  • Hey Elyse!  Thanks so much for your feedback!  It warmed my heart and I SUPER love that your favorite color is the same as mine!

Jenny Hipskind
I like looking through your photography posts! I always love to see what other photogs get to do on a more consistent basis than I do. And of course, I can relate to your posts about being a poor musician’s wife. 🙂 It’s such a strange mix of emotions sometimes for me of being so proud and happy for my husband in that he gets to do what he loves…but there are other times I look at the checkbook and just want to scream, “Get a real job!!” Ok, that’s probably more than you needed to know, haha! 🙂


What’s your favorite color? Purple!
What needs improving on my blog? I think it’s nice and easy to read. If I had to be hyper-critical, I might suggest to make the side menu a little smaller, so it gives your actual blog or pictures more space. Or maybe use a more different font to make it stand apart better.
Any thing else you want to say? Keep up the good work! 🙂
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  • Hey Jenny!  Thanks so much for your feedback on my blog!  And it’s nice to know I have a fellow wife in my corner 🙂  Unfortunately, due to my template, I don’t think I’ll manage changing the sidebar… it’s kind of stuck that way but I appreciate your suggestion.  I would have loved to fulfill it 🙂

Heather Smith

I love looking at pictures, so anything that you write with an image that catches my attention makes me want to come read your blog posts. I also love your honesty about things. You are not afraid to share the truth about what is really going on in your life. i.e. marriage, what God is doing, silly stories, sad stories.


What’s your favorite color? ORANGE!
What needs improving on my blog? Being able to subscribe should be more accessible, because I didn’t know that I could.
Any thing else you want to say? You’re a wonderful woman and I love that you are genuine and friendly to everyone that you meet. =)
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  • Hey Heather! Thank you for your feedback on my blog.  Your encouragement meant a lot to me today.  I also took a stab at getting the subscribe more noticeable.  What do you think?

I like lots of things 🙂 I enjoy that you always give a little info on the person who you took photos of, it makes you feel so personal (which you are). My favorite link on your blog currently is the blog about marriage!! I really enjoy when you give helpful tips to others, because it is so encouraging and it’s just because. It gives people a little burst of sunshine and positivity which is exactly who you are. I love that the blog is so you! **AND THAT YOU ARE DOING A GIVEAWAY! 🙂


Megan Miller

What’s your favorite color? Yellow AND blue 🙂
What needs improving on my blog? Hmmm…. this is the tough part. I would say that I … I can’t say anything, I just like it 🙂
Any thing else you want to say?
  • My Reply
  • Megan!  You’re just the sweetest and make my heart smile 🙂  Thanks for your encouragement and wonderful friendship.  Can’t wait to take more pictures of you in the near future 😉