I have seen Josh for about five whole days in the last month and a half or so. For this Redeemed Tour Citizen Way started up in our neck of the woods then headed down south, all the way west, up to Washington and over to Montana and then, finally, one month later I picked him up at a McDonald’s off the freeway in MN. He had gone a total of around 8094 miles and 128 hours of driving for 19 shows at 19 different venues in 12 different states in 31 days and only slept 2 – 5 hours per night. Josh and Ben Blascoe split all those miles and all those hours in the driver’s seat of their 15 passenger van.
Needless to say, after all those miles with high energy and sold out shows in so many cities and states Josh was in need of some serious sleep. Instead, he meets me in Minnesota to sing for my Grandma’s memorial service. For him this meant sacrificing his big need for rest and pouring any remaining energy into loving on me, working on memorial service details, and entertaining my extended family. And he did it all with such grace and love. He is incredible.
If you haven’t guessed, marriage for us is different.
Because of all our time apart and weeks spent fending for myself I have found that I have reconnected with the little Miss Independent from my teenage years. While Josh is gone I adopt a different lifestyle; I work all morning, around 1 or 2 I take a break or a nap, I get back to work, and come evening I read a book until I’m sleepy. I mix it up with the occasional hang with a friend, a walk with the dogs, a home project, or some knitting. It’s seems to be a very healthy pattern. Instead of powering through 8 – 10 hours of work every day I put in 4 or 5, take a break so I can power back up and get excited and inspired, then I work the remaining 4 to 5 hours.
I also have a whole manner of affairs to tend to on my own. Because of these little items I have to work on I have been finding that at the end of every day I feel very accomplished. By sweeping, doing the dishes, buying groceries, juicing, getting the oil changed, shoveling the driveway, clipping the dog’s nails, or paying bills I can feel like I’ve been productive even if I’ve only been working on editing the same wedding for three days straight.
Then Josh comes home and we try to squeeze in as much togetherness as my work load can afford. It’s a confusing back and forth because on one had I’m left to fend for myself and on the other hand I suddenly have someone around 24/7. Talk about some whiplash. We’re still navigating how to go between these two extremes in the ways that are easiest and most beneficial for both of us. For the rest of this Redeemed Tour the art of this back-and-forth will be put to the test. According to the schedule Josh is gone 4 – 5 days at a time then he’s home for 2 – 3. As for today and the rest of this week I am Miss Independent, then come Monday I am a Mrs again for a couple of days 😉