Wholesome Talk and Children

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“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29

Some weeks ago I attended a new women’s Bible study that revolves particularly around building up and generally supporting our marriages.  It’s been amazing digging into the word with these women and having little (and big) things added to my list to work on.  In one of our first meetings Ephesians 4:29 was referenced only very slightly but it stuck to my bones. Since then it has become somewhat of a life verse.

Since I’m all about being honest, I confess I have intentionally let myself get away with saying exactly what’s on my mind to Maisy for quite some time.  I thought I was being wise – better to say it out loud to the one who’s frustrating me and can’t understand what I’m saying anyways, but I’ve been convicted that there’s more to it than that.  I think that in her spirit she understands exactly what I’m saying, especially now that she’s older.  I’ve also found that saying what I want to her actually encourages more unwholesome thoughts and words rather than “satisfying” those I’m already feeling.  In fact, it’s quite the opposite effect, after only working on my words for several weeks now, I’ve found that not only are my words more in check but my thoughts are too.

Throughout my days now I find this verse popping into my head when I want to swear or say something negative towards Maisy.  I’m so encouraged how quickly my heart and mind were able to correct themselves so holding my tongue became quickly effortless and changing my thoughts.


Battling Ill Will

Sometimes there are moments in life when someone wrongs you or takes advantage of you.  And then at the next turn God clearly requests you not only forgive them but move forward by afflicting them with abundant kindness.  I am in the middle of one of those moments today.

I was in the middle of fuming about a scenario when I was wronged as a professional when I broke away from my computer to do my lunch time routine of food and devos.  When I grabbed my Bible I was longing for the comfort I knew it would provide and how it would set my heart straight.  I got that and more.  Here’s what I read…

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:31-32).

And now I am thanking God for setting my heart straight, giving me the answer to the thoughts running through my mind, and praying that He will give me the strength to battle my own ill will and unleash kindness, mercy, and love when I am face to face with the object of my bitterness later today.  Then my reading from last night pops into my head…

“Remember – the Lord doesn’t give you strength, Hezekiah.  He is your strength” (Song of Redemption, 33).

I’ve prayed for strength a lot.  But I suppose I should be praying I simply drop my pride and lean on His strength that’s already there waiting for me to claim it.

Happy Wednesday!  Thanks for reading my words.